Book Review ; Fight The Fear – Mandie Holgate

As personal development books go, there are few that really stand out amongst the pack and, in a very tangible way, change your life.

‘Fight the Fear’, by Mandie Holgate, is one such book.

The subtitle of this book is ‘How to beat your negative mindset and win in life’. I cannot agree more with that statement.

Mandie addresses 12 fears in this book, starting with the most important one; ‘What if someone finds out who I really am?’. It’s most important one because it sets the base from which to address all the other fears by asking the question, ‘Who am I?’. In this chapter, you will come to know the areas in your life that are most important to you, and hence will know where and how to direct your energy and goals.

So, how will you come to know those areas? Well, here’s what sets this book apart from other personal development books. Each chapter is broken down into 4 parts, namely

1. What the Fear is
2. Examples of the fear and what Exercises can be done
3. What Actions you can take
4. What Results you can expect from positive actions

In this way, Mandie allows for either thorough reading through all four sections of each chapter, or just skimming through what the fear is, and concentrating on the exercises, while jumping to the expected results. While that can be a method of reading this book, what worked for me was to read through each chapter twice, and taking notes during the second time.

If you do the exercises in this book, I can just about guarantee that you will be a better person for it! One of the best exercises, which is often repeated in the book, is the ‘What if?’ exercise. If you want to know more, read the book. But you’ll soon understand how beneficial this exercise is.

The other notable fears she addresses are ‘I’m scared of setting goals’, ‘I don’t believe I can succeed’, ‘I don’t ask for help’ and ‘I hate phoning people’. These were core fears for me and I gained an invaluable perspective in how to positively address these aspects of my life, and I find myself already conquering these long-held negative beliefs.

Throughout the book, Mandie uses small business owners as her base clientèle, and transfers most of her expected ‘Results’ sections in winning in the workplace. However, I found that her exercises helped me more in other aspects of my life, and it was a holistic healing and motivational process, rather than just winning at work.

It doesn’t matter at what stage you are in your life. Reading this book, and doing the exercises in it, will catapult you to the success that you (and, indeed, all of us) want. This book will permanently change your mindset which will allow you to deal with your fears once and for all.

The book can be found here, while I found my copy at a local bookstore.

I HIGHLY recommend you get your copy as soon as possible.

Theatre Review : #Lottering

Marc Lottering’s latest show, #Lottering, has returned to the Baxter for a second run.

I went to see the show, and it was brilliant. Marc brings his signature humour and theatrics to the stage, and keeps you enthralled for just about 90 minutes.

His show includes 2 VERY funny skits about shopping on Christmas Eve and the TV show, ‘The Voice’, with the latter showing off his fabulous singing skills.

Another place where he displays his musical talent is at the beginning of the show. As is now his signature, he opens the show with a few lines, then sits at the piano and sings a song. It’s a wonderful beginning to his show, and this time he added a few very funny vignettes into the piece which made it that much more amusing!

He covers a multitude of hashtags, which you must go see for yourself, but being the end of JanuWorry, the part about the pepper steak pie and the good angel literally had me crying with laughter.

For more on the show, and to buy tickets, go here, but you must be quick, as its running until 4 February 2017.

All in all, it’s a very funny night out with that special someone, or as I did, a group of friends.

So go watch the show, before the EFT goes through! *wink wink*

Spurs 2015/2016 – So Close, and yet much closer

The 2015/2016 Premier League season will go down in history as one of the most exhilarating in its 24 year history. We saw a rank outsider beat enormous odds to become Champions by a canter, and so give credence to the notion that anything is possible.

For us Spurs fans, it was a bittersweet season, yet again. However, this time it wasn’t because we finished the season with unrealised expectations, or we failed to achieve anything significant. On the contrary, this was our best season in many years, in fact, as long as I can remember. This one tops our Champions League attaining season back in 2010! There are so many positives to come out of this season, that it’s difficult to list them all.

First in my mind, and the best of all, was Harry Kane. EVERYONE who wasn’t a Spurs fan said his 2014/2015 season would be as good as he’ll ever be, and he’s a one hit wonder. How wrong they were! Not only did he top the scoring charts with 25 goals, but many of them were a master class in finishing. But it must be said, the start of the season didn’t go according to plan, with his first goal only coming after 749 minutes, on the 26th of September in that 4-1 demolition of Manchester City. But that was only a sign of things to come, as the next month saw a hat-trick in the 5-1 win at Bournemouth.

The rest of the season yielded his best campaign yet, including scoring in both North London derbies. He has shown the class and calibre required to defend his golden boot, and I see him right up there in the scoring charts again next season.

The other find of the season was Dele Alli. The 20 year old made his first team debut in the opening day loss to Manchester United, and scored his first goal in the 1-all draw against eventual champions, Leicester City, two weeks later. Halfway through the season, he was sitting on 5 goals and 3 assists.

And then came THAT goal. On 23 January 2016, he scored a 25 yard volley at Crystal Palace that made grown men cry. It was a piece of individual brilliance that left critics dumbstruck. One such pundit, former Spur Garth Crooks wrote, “Well, I’ve seen some glorious goals scored in my time watching football matches but I doubt whether I will see a goal scored with such individual flair, and by a 19-year-old, as Dele Alli’s goal at Selhurst Park – it was sheer class”

Alli went on to be voted the season’s PFA Young Player of the Year, and was rewarded with a new long term contract. Only better things can come from this young lad.

But the season had its negatives too. Even though we finished 3rd, our best ever performance in the Premier League, we faded badly at the end of the season, when 1st was no longer possible. And this gave rise to the biggest disappointment of all: surrendering second place to Woolwich on the last day of the season. All the good work done in the lead up to that moment seemed in vain, and the loss at St. James’ Park on the final day was a difficult pill to swallow.

That being said, the upcoming season already is looking bright. Victor Wanyama is a great buy, and given his lack of international commitments, he should settle well into the club, and great things will come of him. Pochettino has done wonders with a young squad, and surely they will have learnt from last season’s implosion.

So with the resurgence of the Manchester Clubs and Chelsea – all under new management – and a re-building of Liverpool under Jurgen Klopp, the league is bound to be scintillating. I’m sure that Tottenham Hotspur will take their place as leaders in that pack.